'There's No Such Thing As There Is No Way...You Find A Way!'
Copyright by RhondaLee Quaresma
This is written on behalf of all Barbie Lovers everywhere like Myself, and from some inspiration from 2 very special people I know! Paul, one of my best friends since childhood who is a true Barbie collector for years, along with one of my more recent best friends, but for sure forever, Blondie who is as true a living version of Barbie as you can get!)
This subject is actually something that has bothered me for a long time beginning with Barbie's first changes I witnessed some years back. But after seeing the cover of Time Magazine and stumbling upon A story done by PBS covering Mattel's new Barbie dolls, well, I'm not happy and disagree with what I've so far come to know about this situation. I'm not upset with the decisions to add more and different Barbie dolls, but with changing the original or past Barbie! Here is my view point, and I do believe I speak for many! I feel so strongly about this new Barbie issue that I HAD TO write about it and share publicly!
'NOW CAN WE STOP TALKING ABOUT MY BODY'? was the cover title on 'Time' magazine. And my response is NO WE CAN NOT! Because as far as I'm concerned, a whole other can of worms was just opened to a whole new group of people! I'm sure Barbie would not want anything to do with worms! ;)
Ok, so here are My concerns:
Barbie is a DOLL!! She's not a real human! When I was a little girl, I remember quite clearly being aware that she was for play! A pretend life. Make it up as you go! And Barbie made Me feel fantastic! My fav doll to play with. If She was real, this is what I got from her: feminine, pretty, smart, warm, a nice girl, and definitely a role model! Barbie wasn't the pretty girl that was the nasty popular girl (but who's judging!?). She was the pretty popular girl that was also super nice! And she WAS realistic, because she was a dam doll! She was every little girls superhero. Why is it women get the ostracising from society over looks! Haven't heard tell of downplaying Superman for being too masculine or having too big muscles, pecs and biceps! Oh and PLEASE don't do this! Haaaa.
So now you shame on Barbie, and replace her with today's new version, whatever that means Exactly! Its all over the spectrum! Ok I get it. You are trying to represent every different look there is to give a correct self image to children. Well, kids are way smarter than you give them credit for one thing. Did I mention the point about Barbie being a doll!? Oh yes, I did. And for another, you just did what you are saying should not be done....YOU JUDGED BASED ON LOOKS!!!
Barbie and her Boobs! Now don't even get Me started here! Oooops, too late. And I'm late addressing this actually! I can't remember exactly when it was, but all I do remember and I remember it well, is the transformation of Barbie, specifically targeted at her breasts. Her whole image was down played! Like Barbie had been some BAD person! So annoying and disappointing at the least. I couldn't look at Barbie for a long while after that because I would get frustrated and even a bit angry. I did find my emotional ties to this'doll' a bit odd, so I did as I do and went inside my mind to try to pinpoint where this emotion was sparked from. I take pride in being very honest with myself and sometimes that ole subconcious has to be confronted. Anyhow, this was my 'realization' as I call them.
I remember Barbie as my fav doll with hour glass figure. In my playtime talk, I was learning and going through the emotions of becoming a woman. Yes I thought as i would change Barbie's fashion attire and see her naked, that I wanted to look like that, but it never once was more than that thought, because THIS is BARBIE and she IS a DOLL! I may have mentioned this before! ;) But WAIT! It gets better! My wonderful, beautiful, voluptuous Mother! Full of curves and breasts that could shame some of the biggest today! And they were natural and hers!! As were Barbie's! Women grow breasts! Some big, some small!! Perhaps following My mother's genetics, as I went into puberty, I at 16 years old was a 36D!!! I was not even aware what I had. I see looking back now. But wow I can't imagine if I was suddenly told I was wrong for looking a certain way (having breasts which range is size for women naturally), and then had to down dress because I'm misrepresenting girls! My parents never let me go out not being dressed properly and like a girl So what I'm perceiving in all of this is hypocrisy! Let people be who they are! And for those who use protesting regarding Barbie overboard, here's just some friendly advice... look at YOUR own subconscious! If you have issue with YOURSELF don't attack others! Work on YOURSELF!
How people eat, or don't know how to eat! Ummm just to make something absolutely clear! I believe I never judge anybody! So just understand me saying the next statements are not based on that, but are based on solid facts I've lived and learned.
Ok, so the new Barbie is heavier set and curvier, which again I think is Fantastic! IF it's how that person wants to be. My understanding is Barbie is again changed based on the average girl and that Barbie is too thin and not realistic. Well guess what, Barbie is healthy! The reason so many people are fat/obese (and there is a percentage of bodyfat that determines this state in health and medicene), today is because they are uneducated in the area of health and nutrition, and point blank lazy!! So by promoting the heavier set overweight Barbie, you could be encouraging what kills countless people every year and causes probably just as many illnesses!
Once again the Media influences to a brainwashing point, what young women should think about how a certain girl looks or doesn't look. To a point it is of course healthy to care what others think and how you present yourself in public. But usually it ends up with a youth doing what the peer pressure dictates and not what the young person wants them self! I believe this can lead to all kinds of negatives like insecurities, fears, not focusing in school, lack of leadership, unhappiness, and encourages bullying!!! Let's teach to embrace differences and at least not be negative or saying should's or shouldn'ts based on advertising! And no I'm not a psychologist, but I've lived my life and I stand by my perspectives and am all about helping people feel better about being people!
I am not saying the heavier girl is wrong and Barbie is right, although that is my preference. It is to keep Barbie as the inspiration, and in the spotlight , as she was the leader and beginning of this type of doll generation. Be loyal and grateful and allow her look to be so that the message to young girls is 'Be who you want to be and let others do the same! And leave her glam and unique, busty, etc, whatever!! And I'm all for including the average girl doll because to some other perceptions she quite possibly is the best one, but dont make one superior and inferior in opinion and marketing to the other. Because again the message is NOT completely positive contrary to what the promoters are saying!
Barbie was my inspiration for the now Bratz Dolls I collect. Their personality and look, minus the muscles teehee, was just ME! They saved my day. Gorgeous dolls!! And again positive influences for young girls! And I'm still a young girl at heart. Plus I was so frustrated with Barbie's switch to the 'Plain Jane' look in my eyes, that she just wasn't Barbie anymore! I would have no problem accepting the change, if it truly came from Barbie change based on just a change, instead of biased and judgmental societal pressure! Plus I like to be different! I didn't know anybody who collected Bratz, and I felt Barbie was my friends territory for collecting etc. So brilliant Bratz came along! BUT guess what, ugh, SAME DEAL!!!! Bratz has been down played too! Whhyyy!?! :((. Anyhow, that's a whole other story! Sigh.
Thanks for reading and letting me share my thoughts. Again, I make no statements to tell people this is the way I say anything is and I'm right. It's My opinion and you are free to take it or leave it. This internet age is after all, a great venting system at times! ;)
BUT LETS CHEER, ON A BRIGHT NOTE, BARBIE AND BRATZ RULE!! Teehee! Love you! Barbie, Bratz and ALL YOU TOO!
RhondaLee Quaresma XO
Had to share this! It's time! I'm full of surprises aren't I! ;) Aside from my few plus hats I wear career wise that surprise people in their sheer contrast, and personally my music and dancing love and that I collect bratz dolls...if you haven't already figured it out by pure perception thru my writings etc., I'm very much into spirituality, energy, and deeper levels of consciousness. Its amazing i keep climbing up the ladder rungs, and exciting for something you can't see in tangible form right!?! I pray I continue upward. I'm sharing these thoughts not to brag or place myself above anybody, but to share this well described posting to explain and show that anybody can be there! Why would you want to be? Because you will be happy happy if you aren't already and if it's what you truly want for the most part! It seems so simple, and it is! It's also true! Ever hear the saying, 'The truth will set you free!?' I have much inside me to share with you soon! :) XO
A oneness with all around you
A knowingness of all that is within you
Sit within the quietness of time, link with the part of you that is your true being
Bring forth your inner wisdom and your inner knowledge
It is a place of beauty and serenity
A place that is there for you to attain when you are ready
A place shall we say where your two minds meet
A place where one mind can ask and the other mind can answer
We are all part of the great spirit
Therefore the answers you recieve from your higher self will always be for the goodness of your soul
Whatever answers you are searching for are within you
Go deep within yourself
Learn the art of listening without hearing, learn the art of feeling without touching
The beauty of the higher self is that it is always with you wherever you go
Awaiting your call to re-unite and be at one with your earthly soul
Perhaps for just a brief moment or perhaps a while longer
Let your mind grow and walk within you
Let it reach out to the hidden knowledge within you
The knowledge that you have carried with you since the beginning of your journey
We will guide, but remember we are as one
The higher self is but a part of you that is waiting to be rediscovered by yourself
Be truly at one with yourself
Open your heart, open your mind
Trust in your own ability to unite and be at one within yourself , you are part of the great divine spirit of love
You hold the key to your own learning
Believe, trust and go within
Your true power awaits you
That which we call the Higher Self
© Susan Williams - 9/3/04
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Respecting Wayne Dyer, My Spiritual Teacher! RE RIP (We are all sure you have this part hands down! :))
This Blog entry is to share My respect & gratitude to Wayne Dyer, My Spiritual mentor/life enlightener, higher conciousness enabler, and more! In fact I called him 'MY GOD!' For real! I'm guessing he would dismiss this as he was way too humble and equal to agree to such a role. But for Me, he was the next best thing to 'God' as many of us know it.
Mr Dyer affected my entire life! And he always will!! Unknown to most, him and his teachings were and are a huge part of Me and where i'm going in the rest of my life. It was one of my missions on my LIST OF THINGS TO ACCOMPLISH to meet Wayne Dyer in person! (As you can see from the sticky note attached to my wall). I had so much to tell him. Sigh.
For those who know in any depth Dr Wayne Dyers life and talents, you know what I mean so far. For others, you may be wondering why I'm so emotional regarding a man I never met before. I even cried, straight from my gut and heart... An automatic reaction, and almost immediately when I learned of the news of his passing! I was shocked at my reaction, yet I was not, and what I already knew about the reasons he touched my life, became as clear as the day and stronger! Another awakening perhaps. ;) Definitely a knowing that there's not a 'particle' of doubt that something I must do on this earth must be done. Was I perhaps delegated among the Universe's source or creator to do a certain task? Or am i a bit caught up in fantastical mind creation? As Wayne would say, with intention we create alignments. While on a visiting trip to California some years ago, I accidentely overheard Dr wayne Dyer speaking his excuses begone paradigm on PBS which was playing in my hotel room as i was beautifying in the bathroom. teehee! I happened to catch it from the beginning and I sat down , 'I said just for a minute, to listen to this interesting man making magnificent sense. I was hypnotized by the whole thing and didnt move thru out the whole show! The impact on me wasnt really anything i didnt already know! It was like he reminded me of so many things I had forgotten and lost touch with. AND interestingly enough, at that point in my life, I had just understood that I thought different than really almost anybody around me. And i seemed to be often facing situations where I was helping people! But I didnt undertand any of it or why and didn't know anybody else who could relate to my 'weirdness' I sometimes thought, except a few of my closest people in my life. I just wanted to find someone to talk to! The state was overwhelmingly finding occassions for me to see it and deal with it! Then he spoke! And I heard!!! I had a 'realization' right then and there i called them. Enlightenment or awakening is the term i think Wayne and hayhouse would use!? This was the beginning of me finding my way to pass on my messages. From that moment on, I became obsessed with this man. In a healthy way, craving to learn and understand more. And he provided a comfort and knowing that everything was and will be ok! So pure, so brilliant and gifted, so kind! I would say the kindest man among all humans who lived in this world, that i know of!
So to finish this blog entry, I Thank you Mr Wayne Dyer for reminding Me of how much good and possibility there is in this life if I participate with what My heart tells me! If i could count the times I would listen to you, and ALWAYS, I was left with a calm, content , enlightened inspiration, knowing that everything really is going to be ok! I will pass on your gifts and add my own too, because you have provided me some means to do so confidently! To everyone, lets make ALL good as we can because life throws at as so many expected and unexpected circumstances. Let's make it a chance to be creative to make it a positive and true outcome! I believe it's that simple! xo
Peace, Love & Happiness!
RhondaLee Quaresma XO